\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\nMy husband snores. It isn\u2019t a cute little snuffle here and there or an occasional bad night. He snores like a buzz saw and it\u2019s constant. It starts about five minutes after he falls asleep and, since he always falls asleep before I do, I\u2019m left to lay there awake silently hating him. I stuff earplugs in my ears and crank up the white noise on my headphones but nothing works. I can still hear the roaring snores through noise cancellers and decibel deadeners, and it keeps me awake all night long. So, as a consequence, my husband and I sleep in separate rooms. In our case, it\u2019s been fine. We\u2019re still intimate and we still spend a lot of time together. It\u2019s sad to say goodnight to him and know I won\u2019t get to snuggle up. It\u2019s lonely always sleeping by myself. But the snoring is just too intense for anything else to work.\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\nThe Solutions You Can\u2019t Impose on a Partner\r\n\r\nScience has given us several suggestions for treating snoring. These include: abstaining from alcohol, losing weight, and practicing good sleep hygiene (getting to bed at the same time every night.) These are all practical suggestions but they aren\u2019t necessarily politically correct or realistic. I can\u2019t demand that my husband lose weight or that he throw out his precious beer. It would put unnecessary strain on our relationship for me to dictate lifestyle changes in exchange for quieter nights. And there\u2019s no guarantee it would work. My husband has a really hard time losing weight. He also has insomnia. These suggestions just aren\u2019t practical in his case.\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\nWhen He Gave Up Alcohol\r\n\r\nMy husband isn\u2019t a jerk. He really wants us to sleep in the same bed too. So, he tried giving up alcohol and\u2026 nothing happened. His snoring stayed exactly the same. Unfortunately, for many people snoring is a natural state. It\u2019s just a consequence of the physiology of the throat and soft palate.\r\n\r\nA Better Mattress Helped, Polyester Implants Probably Would Too\r\n\r\nWe tried getting a more supportive talalay mattress and it did help. I think it was because my husband got more rest, so he didn\u2019t sleep as hard (hard sleep is associated with more relaxation of the throat and increased snoring). Another option, if we get desperate, is a surgical procedure that inserts stiff polyester fibers into the throat to keep airways open at night. It seems a little extreme, since my husband doesn\u2019t have sleep apnea and isn\u2019t in any danger health-wise. In the meantime, I think we\u2019ll just stick to our separate rooms.